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Thank you for reading Confidence is Uncomfortable. I’m glad you’re here.

I’ve changed things around a bit since the book was released in 2019. Essentially, after a while it didn’t make sense to try and operate a separate Facebook group, newsletter etc. for the CIU community - so I’ve effectively smushed everything in together here. I’d love for you to sign up to my newsletter - and you’ll get all the updates from me, ranging from new writing to podcast episodes to strategies and uncomfortable challenges, and exclusive ideas I send just for you. If you want to continue your confidence journey together, and are interested in all things human behaviour and the millennial experience, you can sign up at the bottom of this page.

Alas, you came here for some goodies! And goodies you shall receive. Here are the digital goodies for CIU:

DISC Profiling Quiz - determine which DISC profile you are.
I made this quiz a few years back, and even though it's quick and simple I have found it to be very accurate most of the time.

Goal Setting Sheet - this simple sheet works in some of the goal setting factors we discuss in the chapter on uncomfortable goals. You can use it as a framework for your goal setting session. 

Common Intrinsic Motivators for DISC Profiles - This is a handout I've used in goal setting and profiling sessions before. It gives some common motivators based on DISC profile. This is only to give you some ideas and is by no means exhaustive. If you know your DISC profile, it might help you kick start the journey of discovering your motivators.

When it comes to motivations using McClelland's identifiers, there are others who have built questionnaires better than mine. You can find some quick ones with a Google - this one is quite nice and simple, for example.

On self-assessments

McClelland's motivators can be a little tricky based on the information in the book. Like DISC profiling, you probably resonate with all of them on some level, so we're looking for the one that resonates the most.

Also remember these are self-assessments, so it's worth reviewing your results in light of that. For example, when I read about the motivators, Achievement is definitely my highest need (and comes up as such in all the quizzes I've done), and I've always resonated more with Affiliation than Power. In the last assessment I did*, though, my Power scored a little higher than Affiliation. When I looked through the motives-behaviours matrix, based on their information Affiliation still connected with me more. Maybe I'll give it another 6 months and see if my views are different. (Maybe I have a bit of blocker 9 going on there!) *It was a really good assessment I found online but I haven’t found it again since.

Do I have to print everything out?!

Yes. You'll notice that these sheets require you to print them out and write things down on paper (like some sort of 2000's throwback). There's a reason for this. When you conduct a questionnaire on paper, I find it's easier to focus and you're less likely to get distracted (by other tabs!).

It also means you can easily print a bunch and start forcing people around you to take the quizzes, so you can start analysing people.

Remember, our brain is all about efficiency. When you have a goal setting sheet and you're able to type quickly and easily, it's easier to type more and think less about what you're writing. Writing with a pen takes more effort than typing, so we have to think a little more succinctly when writing things down - which is great for your goal-related notes. 

Thanks again for reading my book and I hope the goodies here serve you well. Again, don’t forget to join my newsletter if you’d like to connect more.